Tips For A Successful Romantic Life
Set a date night once a month. It doesn’t have to be expensive — just some special time with your partner.
Love notes and cards aren’t just for Valentine’s Day. Give him a “just because” love note. It can be sweet and romantic, or sexy and racy. Leave it taped on the bathroom mirror or on the refrigerator so he’ll find it in the morning.
Instead of being bored in the bedroom, tell him what turns you on. If you want to be satisfied when it comes to sex, you can’t be shy. Let him know what you like (and don’t like), and encourage him to do the same.
Let your partner know on a regular basis what it is that you like most about them – what you admire, what makes you proud, what their strengths are in your eyes. Building a romantic relationship isn’t just about the initial bonding – it’s about encouraging and supporting each other’s growth over the course of your lives. Help your partner achieve his or her potential by constantly building them up.
Romance is not a one-way street. Whether you’re a Woman or man, you don’t just receive romance, you co-create it in your relationship. You’re both responsible for how romantic your relationship is. Yes, it may feel unfair to do all the heavy lifting of being romantic, at first, but if your relationship isn’t the way you desire it, then you need to set the tone and give examples of what it is you desire. And when it comes to romance, you can say what you want and why, but it’s much more powerful to show what you want because then your partner understands how good it feels and why it’s important to you.
Being good together does not mean that couples agree on every little thing. Most of the couples we interviewed actually had varying attitudes, opinions, and belief systems; and even held opposing views on major areas in some cases. All couples should have some level of disagreement somewhere. Successful, loving couples respected the point of view of one another, and even had a sense of humor over their points of contention. Recognize that of two opposite views, one of them does not have to be “right”.
Romantic acts can be many – try giving her a flower someday or place a love note in his briefcase or backpack. Surprise him with his favorite meal, or watch the sunset together. There is no shortage of ideas, and you’ll be amazed at how far a little romance goes toward strengthening.
Sex is very important to a healthy marriage. Sex should be regular, and therapists suggest doing it even when you’re not in the mood!